Working with a business or leadership coach is much like working with a personal trainer, a client told me. One of the keys to your success in executing your leadership, business, or exercise plan is accountability. Who tells you that you missed an action item you promised to do?
Will you really do 20 squats, 20 push ups, and 20 burpees every morning if you do not have a personal coach who expects a full report from you each week? There are some super humans who can say yes. For most people though, the answer is no. The personal trainer will know by your muscle tone whether you executed your plan in the same way your business coach will know by the tone of your voice during your touch base meeting whether you attempted to make contact with your clients that week or solicited feedback from your team.
Following up and following through are critical to success. The bottom line is we all need someone or some way to stay accountable for our action items. We all need some help moving forward to reach our goals.
Having a plan and action items in place helps clients manage their time. They learn there is enough time to accomplish their action item. It is often a small step to move forward. As they complete step after step, they gain momentum and begin to roll rather than crawl toward their success.
Clients tell me that seeing a meeting with me on their calendar helps them both remember what they promised to do when we developed their plan and to actually do what they agreed to do. They feel accountable to me, but the plan is not for me. The plan is for them. The promises they made are to themselves. Ultimately, they decide whether to be committed to themselves.
Here are some additional ways to hold yourself accountable:
Find a buddy and schedule recurring meetings to touch base with each other.
A client of mine was stuck on how to handle his working relationship with a good contact. He was afraid that reaching out with information about services he could offer would be inappropriate or bothersome. We analyzed the relationship on multiple occasions. There were no signs from the contact that indicated annoyance. The relationship was strong. We role played conversations searching for the right tone my client could take in asking for a meeting to discuss business. He still felt uncomfortable reaching out.
Suddenly, months later, he pushed himself to forget his excuses for not reaching out and he made the call. To his surprise, his contact was excited to talk to him about working together.
He realized his own thoughts were the only things that held him back from advancing the relationship forward. He had spent hours arguing with himself in a conversation where the other party had no voice. Unfair to himself and to his contact.
Think about the stories you tell yourself. Do they hold you back? Do they cheer you on? You can increase your chances of success by taking control of your mindset.
1. Start by writing out your thoughts in the morning. This helps take off the edge by getting thoughts and frustrations out of your head and onto the paper.
2. Next, write down your hopes for your day. What are the outcomes you want to achieve?
3. Finally, think about what you need to do to achieve those results.
Take the time to express your thoughts and guide your mind to work with you. Be your own ally.
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Hearing your own thoughts and ideas reflected back to you significantly motivates you to move forward. A client told me that the power of her own words mirrored back to her greatly impacted her success.
I regularly ask clients for feedback regarding how coaching is helping them. This blog will focus on the wisdom clients have shared.
One client opened my eyes to how powerful her own thoughts can be. They focused her, strengthened her, and gave her a path to follow. The coach takes on a vital role in creating the quiet space to foster contemplation and acts as a sounding board for problem-solving and innovation.
Clients hold the power over their future and create the possibility for self-improvement by:
Deciding to take the time to work with a coach.
Creating the space to listen to the coach’s questions and think about the answers. This means eliminating the distractions of work and life during the coaching session.
Committing to the process of moving forward with guidance from the coach. Clients who realize success through coaching made the commitment to themselves to take the time. Not just during the coaching session, but in their life to execute on the actions developed during the session.
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